Pastor Victor Kanyari has once again found himself in the public spotlight after releasing a screenshot of a private conversation with his late ex-partner, gospel singer Betty Bayo — a message that has stirred emotions among fans, critics, and those who followed their tumultuous relationship.
The screenshot, which the pastor shared to highlight the nature of their communication in recent years, shows Betty instructing him to “tuma kwangu direct, not school” when discussing money meant for their child’s fees. The exchange also captures updates on school balances, invoices, and reminders about tuition payments abroad, revealing a side of their co-parenting that had previously remained private.
The message has since gone viral, especially the line: “114k tuma kwangu direct… nilipie sky tuition in USA which is 1000 dollars.”
Many Kenyans have interpreted the message as proof that, despite their separation, the two maintained regular communication — often involving money, responsibilities, and the welfare of their children.
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A Relationship Full of History, Love, and Pain
Kanyari and Betty Bayo’s relationship was once one of the most followed unions in the gospel world. Their eventual separation became public drama, with both sides facing scrutiny. But despite the split, Kanyari has consistently said he never stopped caring for her.
In multiple interviews, he revealed that they spoke often — sometimes for as long as 30 minutes — laughing, reminiscing, and discussing their children.
He has repeatedly stated:
> “I never left Betty. She left me. But we were always talking.”
According to him, the financial conversations seen in the screenshot were common, as they were jointly supporting their two children, Sky Victor and Dani Victor.
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A Heartbroken Pastor at the Funeral
After Betty Bayo’s passing, the pastor captured national attention when he broke down at the viewing of her body. Videos that circulated widely showed him crying uncontrollably, a moment that sparked mixed reactions.
Some felt his mourning was heartfelt. Others claimed he was “overdoing it” — especially considering that she had already remarried.
His response was simple:
> “People grieve differently. My pain was real.”
At her funeral in Ndumberi Stadium, he publicly apologized to her, acknowledging that some of the scandals associated with him had brought her pain. He expressed regret and sorrow for any hurt he may have caused.
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Why He Never Remarried
One of the most emotional revelations he has made since her death was his confession that he never remarried because he never found another woman who matched her character.
He said he met several people after their breakup, but none possessed her “maturity, intelligence, or understanding.”
> “Betty was unique. I have never met another woman like her,” he said.
He added that some women he encountered were “too chaotic” and he feared bringing instability into his children’s lives.
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Respect for Her Husband and Co-Parenting Journey
Despite public drama, Kanyari has been firm that he respects Betty Bayo’s husband, commonly known as Tash. He praised him for taking good care of the children and maintaining peace in their blended family structure.
After her death, when some people attempted to interfere with decisions surrounding the children, Kanyari pushed back strongly, stating:
> “These are my children. They remain my responsibility.”
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The Viral Screenshot: Why It Struck a Nerve
The shared WhatsApp conversation — especially Bayo’s words:
“Tuma kwangu direct!”
has triggered a wave of reactions online.
Some Kenyans view it as a normal co-parenting exchange. Others believe the message reveals deeper trust issues, with Bayo preferring money sent directly to her rather than to institutions.
Regardless of interpretation, the screenshot has offered a rare window into the private lives of two high-profile individuals whose relationship has remained a subject of public interest for nearly a decade.
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A Story of Love, Regret, and Unanswered Questions
Whether one views him as emotional, honest, dramatic, or controversial, one thing is clear: Pastor Kanyari is a man still processing a deep loss.
His decision to share the screenshot may have reopened old conversations, but it also paints a vivid picture of the complex co-parenting relationship he shared with Betty Bayo — one filled with responsibilities, financial negotiations, and unresolved emotions.
As Kenyans continue debating the meaning behind the words “tuma kwangu direct,” the story of Kanyari and Betty remains a bittersweet reminder of love, mistakes, forgiveness, and the unpredictable journey of healing.
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